The idea that all of our bodies have their unique set point, a number, give or take 5-10 lbs, that our body likes to reside at when it’s healthy and we’re feeding it well.
One of the biggest breakthroughs I experienced in my ED recovery was accepting my set point.
(Which is a tall order, I do realize. Acceptance can be a bit of a bitch to work through)
And my set point is pretty average. Coming from a family of Irish-German “Campbell Soup Kids”, I realized I was never going to be 110 lbs soaking wet (sorry for the rare number), once I was able to see through the irrationalities of my eating disorder. It just wasn’t going to happen, unless I engaged in superhuman exercise and dangerous restriction every day. Which, was alarming to my ED at first. My ED wanted to fight my body. Screw you, it said to my body. I’ll show you. You can be different.
However, once I accepted it, set point theory was…relaxing, actually. It comforted me, because if I fed my body the way my nutritionist told me to, it would never screw me over. It would never put me at an obese weight I feared…it would put me right where I belong.
(But there was quite a fight to get to that acceptance. Think: A crying, binging sometimes, scratching, screaming fight.)
I still have to check myself fairly daily on this when my ED starts luring me into lesser-weight land.
What do you think? Have you accepted your body type, your set point? If not, what steps do you have to take to obtain that acceptance?
*What works for me may not work for you. Proceed at your own risk.