Media Mondays: Does Body Acceptance Mean An Unhealthy Lifestyle?

So my friend sent me this article because she thought I might have something to say about it.  (Me?  Never.)  And I did.  So, here’s the link –

Real Women…?

So this lady’s argument is that there’s this common theme today of saying “real women” are only size 14, with curves, and that thin or healthy women get shit on in regards to being “real”. If you scroll down, she tells you that she was one of the overweight women in the second set of pics, and then she became a bodybuilder.  Can I tell you something?  I agree with ONE of her points.  And that is:

There has been a backlash against slender people since the body-acceptance movement.  It’s true.  I bet most naturally-tiny people have felt discriminated against at times, with the boatloads of body acceptance size 14 memes floating around the internet.  The truth is, all women who don’t have botox and don’t photoshop their pics have “real” bodies.

But I don’t agree with the rest of the article.  And here’s why.

1.  One thing that bothers me is the name-calling.  Lady, how ’bout you don’t shame people by telling them they have “shitty” eating habits.

2.  She’s using her story in the wrong way.  This gal apparently lost like 50 lbs or so.  OK, good for you, I was overweight as a kid too and lost it (albeit through unhealthy ways.)  Just because I am society’s standard of “normal” doesn’t mean you see me taking the “real women” movement personally.  I’m confident enough to know I have a real body, a body that is just as real as those size 14-ers.  It’s like a white person crying because black people have their own equality organizations.

3.  I’m sorry, but if you’re a bodybuilder, I’m guessing you use extreme measures to maintain your appearance.

4.  WHAT ABOUT DEPRESSION?  This lady makes losing weight/getting healthy seem supremely easy.  And you know what?  It is, for some.  But others have to battle co-existing illness like depression and anxiety which compound the ability to lose it.  You don’t have a choice when you have depression; it’s a disease and you have symptoms that prevent you from making choices.

5.  And oh yeah, there’s class status.  Not everyone is white and middle class and is able to shop at Whole Foods!

6.  And lastly, God.  Lady, I am guessing when people say “God gave me this body”, they mean their genetics/biology.  And guess what?  That does have an impact.  I’m never going to be Anna Kendrick-sized, but I’m also not ever going to be Geena Davis sized.  Science does, in fact, happen!

Bottom line:  I just hate that women like this get 47,000 likes on an article of this quality, which is basically a shot to get money and publicity through emotional manipulation.  And my little blog just plods along…albeit happily…

(and if you’re wondering the answer to my title, it’s this…)


6 thoughts on “Media Mondays: Does Body Acceptance Mean An Unhealthy Lifestyle?

  1. Yes! A friend of mine from high school has always been TINY. Can shop in the little girl’s section, has no breasts, would kill to have a little bit of curves. And SHE is being shamed because her ‘God-given’ form is what this movement is calling unnatural or unhealthy. It’s depressing. There seems to always be something we, as women, feel the need to shame a portion of our gender for. Why can’t we just accept that ‘what is healthy for me may not be for you’ (175 is my ideal weight for my body structure – at 5′ 10″, it’s considered overweight), and GET OVER OURSELVES and our need to make others feel like less for the way they are?

  2. i’ve seen this article reposted and referred to several times in the past week or so, and my reaction is similar to yours. it’s just so frustrating how even within the “body positivity” movement there is still rampant judgment. i hate the “real women have curves” mantra, because by its standard, those of us who are naturally boyish are…fake women? and the idea that you can only love yourself if you’re healthy is further crap. we’re all works in progress; every body is a good body worthy of respect. this article makes me want to throw things. rawr!

  3. Good for you for writing your opinion about that woman’s post. That post she wrote made me so flaming mad. It’s like don’t preach to me about “control” because I’m slowly learning that some things are out of my control and that not every bad thing that happens to me is my fault.

  4. sigh – why do people like that get so many people on board? If she’s a bodybuilder, I’m assuming she has several hours a day to devote to her bodybuilding (as did my brother who was a body builder)…and most of us don’t really have the time, inclination and/or finances to have that kind of devoted lifestyle.

    I am all about health and being active (for mental as well as physical health reasons) – but it has to be something sustainable for one’s entire lifetime. And for her to tell someone like me, who is overweight, that I have shitty eating habits crosses the line b/c she doesn’t know my habits – nor do I have to justify my body size to her or anyone.

    I’m doing the best I can with what I’ve got – what more can I ask of myself?

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