Category Archives: Sonia Kashuk

Why I Picked Sonia


So, I’m sure a few people might have noticed I’m doing ads for Sonia Kashuk.

I don’t typically do a lot of ads – especially ones for the beauty industry – but I liked her backstory.

Sonia is a breast cancer survivor – which is a struggle near and dear to my partner’s heart.  Our daughter’s middle name is his late aunt’s name, who struggled with breast cancer.  So, anyone who does work for breast cancer awareness work receives a thumbs-up in my book.

I’m also all for anybody who’s been through anything – you know?  I do believe the beauty lies in going through something, and not running away from it.  She already has a lot of respect from me.

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Getting Out of Your Head


One of the biggest traps I used to (and occasionally still do) fall into with my eating disorder was getting stuck in my head.  What do I mean by that?

Well, it’s sort of like when something not-so-great happens to you, or is brought up, and it triggers a downward-spiral pattern of thinking that leads you nowhere good.  And since cognitive behavioral therapy teaches us that thoughts affect feelings, and in turn, affect actions, this kind of head space can lead to a behavioral disaster.

You want an example?  Today, my daughter was having a rough day (I can take a couple of guesses why, but it’s probably because she’s an almost-two-year old), and I internalized it.  (Which is an irrational, easy trap for parents to fall into.  But I digress.)  I started thinking, “Maybe she’s acting funny because I didn’t get her up early enough and her sleep is off.  Or maybe I’m not doing enough structured activity for her.  Or maybe because we haven’t gotten out of the house today because it’s cold outside.  I must be a bad parent because I haven’t gotten her outside today.  I’m also a bad parent because I don’t have enough money to enroll her in some toddler gym where, on days like this, she could get out and interact with munchkins her age.  Yep, I suck!”

Yeah, that sounds productive.

Luckily, I haven’t acted on it, but it led to some pretty crappy feelings.  But instead of using an unhealthy behavior, I decided to type.  Because typing organizes my thoughts and gets me out of my head.

One of the  best things you can do for yourself (if you’re in recovery from addiction or in that awesomely-fun head space) is do something that involves using your hands.  OK, get the dirty jokes out of the way.  No, but really!  Performing such tasks as sewing or building something uses a different part of the brain than circular thinking does.  It’s why you see knitting so often at eating disorder treatment centers.  It’s an activity that you have to focus on, but it’s repetitive and soothing.

The same goes for painting, and coloring, and embroidering, and typing.  You can even integrate this DBT-esque skill into your beauty routine.  Painting your nails is a great way to get rid of that negative mind space.  Self-care and DBT rolled into one.  What’s not to love?

Check out my favorite color line, Sonia Kashuk’s at  My favorite for fall Grey Matter, but to each his own.

What activities do you use that are distracting and soothing?




Sensory Tools to Fight ED


When I was in eating disorder treatment, one of the most important things they taught me was how to integrate the five senses into recovery.

What do I mean by that?

Well, all the rumination and obsession about eating or eating disorder behaviors takes place in one part of the brain.  When you trigger one of the five senses (sight/touch/taste/smell/hear), you light up a different part of the brain, and you feel more grounded.

This is why a lot of ED programs will have you create a “DBT box”.  What is this?

You take any old box, and fill it with things that please the five senses.  For example – you might have a piece of paper with your favorite perfume on it, a picture of your grandmother, a bracelet that’s made up of little bells, or favorite quotes.  And you open it up whenever you’re feeling stressed or triggered.

In everyday, practical life, this stuff works wonders too.  Think about how you feel after taking a shower and treating yourself to a luxurious new body lotion afterwards.  You feel like a million bucks, right?

My new favorite is Sonia Kashuk’s Yellow Alluriana body butter from Target.  It has matching shower gel and other delicious shower-time must-haves!  You can find more

What’s your favorite scent that calms you down?  Is it perfume, or something from your childhood, like the smell of your mother’s cookies baking?  

How do you incorporate the five senses into your self-care?



Self-Care: Buying into Society’s Lies, or Taking Care of Your Spirit?


I love makeup.  I do.  I don’t always have enough time to always put it on the way I want to, with a child in tow, but I do love it.  It’s artistic and fun and character-changing, at least for me.  I’m sure it sounds corny, but I feel like a different person when I go to a wedding wearing smoky eyes or bright lipstick I normally wouldn’t.  I guess it comes from my theatrical background; when I would do shows, I would love tech week because we finally got to wear our makeup and costumes.  I like playing another character, sometimes.

It’s also the act of taking the time to put it on and take care of your appearance.  Most mornings, I slap on foundation and blush and run out the door so I don’t look like an Irish ghost.  But when I have the time to get ready for a wedding, I feel…luxurious.  It’s hilarious what motherhood renders delightful when it’s probably the norm for everyone else!

My dad, the guy you wouldn’t guess would be a feminist, used to yell at me every time I would put makeup on as a teen and young adult.  “You’re buying into a product,” he’d remark.  “Women don’t need makeup to look beautiful – they already are.  You’re letting companies tell you what you should look like!”

He was right, sort of.  He’d be surprised that his words would echo in my mind a long time after he said it.  Did putting on makeup lower my self-esteem?  Did it mean I was an unaware robotic consumer like everyone else?  And worst of all, was it part of my bad body image?

It was almost like I had guilt for expressing myself, and that’s when I realized makeup and feminine things like jewelry and eyeliner were part of my self-expression, not part of a covering-up scheme I concocted to hide my true self.  So, my dad was right – ads for things like makeup and clothes CAN affect your self-esteem, but different triggers affect different people.  For me?  I know I can’t read beauty magazines – I know I’ll feel like reducing my caloric intake after reading those.  But makeup?  So much fun.  And I’m not going to feel guilty for my self-expression – that was part of my eating disorder, right?  Reducing myself down to nothing so I didn’t have a voice.

And, being a cheap savvy mama, I shop at Target every weekend with the fam.  This past weekend, I noticed the Sonia Kashuk line when I was glancing through the beauty department.  I was excited to pick up a new shade of foundation which would highlight my  Irish ghost  fair fall look that I sport, and Sonia Kashuk had every shade imaginable.  Check her out at

I’m excited to hear what you think about feminism and your self-care – does your enjoyment of “the extras” contribute to a positive body image or does it hurt it?  Let me know.