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Day 2 of the Tummy Love Project

The Solar Plexus Chakra.
The Solar Plexus Chakra.
So, I woke up this morning with pretty bad back pain. Apparently, finding and embracing your abdominals after 2-3 years of ignoring they exist means some hit and miss on using the right muscles when strengthening. It is STRANGE, I tell you, how I pretended they didn’t exist without knowing it. And because of this, I had some major shame attached to them. (“I know I have this stomach that I hate, but I’m going to hide it behind bad posture and pillows in front of me.”) Think about it – emotions are the same way – if we reject jealousy, for example, we shame it and think it’s “bad” and hide it from others.

So, needless to say, the first step in my journey of “tummy love” begins with simple awareness. So, I did the following things –

  • sat up straight
  • let my stomach expand in all its glory
  • caught myself when I went to put a pillow in front of me
  • and breathed into it.  Good, deep breaths.

You have no idea how much this helped.

It was like, “Hey there stomach, nice to see you after mistreating you for so long!  I acknowledge that you exist, and by doing this, I see you the way you are.”

Acceptance.  Simple presence.

I’m sure some judgmental yoo-hoo out there thinks I’m wacko, but I’m cool with that.  I’m done with the body hatred, and I’m willing to do anything to get rid of it.

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I turn to chakras for today’s inspiration.  We have 7 chakras, and the 3rd, the Solar Plexus, is your core.  According to www.chakra-anatomy.com, it “is the center of your self-esteem, your willpower, and your discipline…. it allows you to transform inertia into action and movement. It allows you to meet challenges and mover forward in your life…it is the centre of your self-esteem. Every time you judge or criticize yourself, you deplete this chakra and weaken your willpower. Self love, self acceptance, and acknowledgement of your own worth are the building blocks of the third chakra.”

Now why would I want to hide something like that?

(Image provided by www.chakra-anatomy.com)

 

The 30 Day Tummy Love Project!

tummy love

I had an epiphany in the shower this morning.  (Don’t all good ideas happen there?)  I had just tried on a dress for an upcoming wedding, and as I gazed at my figure, I felt the old familiar self-hatred creep in.  Mostly for my stomach.  I realized, that while most other areas of my ED recovery were solid, my self-hatred for my stomach was high and still existed.  Why?  Because my unconscious coping mechanism, until now, was ignoring it and pretending it wasn’t there.  Because I have so much shame attached to my stomach.  By society’s standards, it’s not just imperfect, it’s not desireable.

If you think about it, isn’t ignoring someone a horrible thing to do to anybody?  And if we are, in the interest of self-love, going to treat our bodies with the same compassion as we do to other human beings, isn’t ignoring a body part just bad for its self-esteem?  Why not radically change the way we think about a certain body part (even if we don’t believe it at first) and send gigantic amounts of self-love towards it instead?

So that’s what I am doing.

I am launching the “30 Day Tummy Love Project” – a project designed to increase my awareness, cognitions, and compassion towards my tummy.  I will:

  • blog once a day (I will!  I will!) about the self-love activity I did that day for my tummy.
  • engage in strengthening activities for my core muscles (note: in the means of taking care of it, NOT in the means of shrinking it.  My recovery has always included healthy exercise)
  • read “tummy love” literature
  • engage in meditations which allow me more presence with my body/tummy
  • and other inpiring shit I haven’t thought of yet.

I WON’T:

  • Check if I lose inches or pounds
  • aspire to 6 pack abs (like Peyton Manning once said, no one can really get those)
  • compare my tummy to Kate Moss’s, or someone else’s
  • Body-check
  • Change my diet (except, perhaps ADD in healthy food in addition to the christmas cookies I consume during this month.

And my last plea is, PLEASE, join me and love your body or body part you’ve ignored because of years of mistreatment.  And, if you have any suggestions for self-love activities, PLEASE share them.

Love to all of you!

(Image provided by Google Images).